Pity Party


I am having a love/hate relationship with Facebook these days. I love reading some status updates, seeing how people are, looking at their pictures. Sometimes though, those pictures end up making me feel bad.
Like when I see pictures of friends and family get togethers…that we were not invited to. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t feel as if I should be invited by everyone to everything. I don’t think I have to be every one’s best friend. It only hurts when the pictures go on and on and I see pictures of groups of people, one right after another and I think, “Where is the picture of me or my family? Oh wait, we were not invited.”
I realize moving so often and coming back to places that we are not always thought of first. I get it. But sometimes it is so hard not to take it personally.
Do I think that people should invite me next time? No way. That is totally the host’s prerogative to invite whomever they like. I just need to stop looking at the pictures on Facebook. Ignorance is bliss and if there is a party going on that I am not included in, then I would rather just not know.
It makes me feel like the time when all the girls in my 6th grade class were invited to Rochelle Aguire’s Birthday party. Everyone except me and 1 other girl. To make matters worse, they crank called my house that night. I heard them laughing. I could have survived the night, until they called me and I heard how much fun they were having.
Don’t get me wrong, I realize this problem totally lies within me, not the people who post pictures on Facebook. I am overly sensitive and always have been. But I like to think it makes me more compassionate, so I wouldn’t change that for the world.
Here is a wonderful and healthy meal to serve at any kind of party…Even a pity party.

Kale and Red Pepper Pesto
4 cloves garlic
1/2 c walnuts, chopped
1/2 c + 1 Tb Olive Oil
1 bunch Kale
2 roasted red peppers
salt and pepper

Clean Kale by rinsing very well. Chop Kale. Boil 3 qts salted water. Add chopped kale and cook for about 7 minutes.
Heat Olive oil in a skillet over medium heat. Add garlic cloves and cook until nicely browned on all sides. This takes out the bitterness of the garlic.
Pour garlic and oil into a food processor.
Wipe oil out of the skillet and heat walnuts over medium high heat, making sure to keep them moving. They are done when you start to smell the nutty flavor. Pour them into the food processor.
Turn on food processor to finely chop nuts and garlic.
When Kale is finished, add to food processor. Add red pepper as well.
Run food processor and stream in 1/2 c olive oil.
Season with salt and pepper to taste.
Toss with pasta topped with Parmesan cheese.

3 thoughts on “Pity Party

  1. Eila (Chef/Owner of "Full Plate")

    You are not alone. I think every mom/woman out there (who sucks their free time up on FB, gosh do I not kick myself every day for signing up for that darn thing!!) feels that way. But the food at the pity party sounds delish, so pour yourself a nice glass of wine to go along with that pesto, and chin up!


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